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This has moved me. It’s raw and is something I can relate to

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Thank you for this lovely comment. I was really scared posting it, it means a lot that you were able to relate to it.

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Wow... How can this tragic story be written in such a lovely way is beyond me. This was a beautiful and captivating read from beginning to end.

Being on the opposite side of the spectrum with the golden ticket I, of course, cannot relate with what you have gone through. But I will say that it has made you stronger, wether you realise it or not. Kepp going!

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🧡🧡🧡 Thank you Milka. This is exactly why I wrote it the way I did, so everyone, even people with the "golden ticket" would be able to read and understand it. That this worked makes me really happy, thank you.

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Annika, this is so moving, and you are so brave for writing it and sharing it with the world! I wish more people who lived similar experiences did, so we can destroy the stigma around (adult) children speaking up. I have a similar experience and I also have hundreds of pages written, just to make sense of my experience, to see I'm not crazy or ungrateful, hundreds of pages to calm my heart. I haven't been home in 5 years, and every time I think of it, I'm afraid to go back there...

I had to stop and take a break from reading your piece, right after you saw the woman trimming the rose bush, as I felt a heavy load on my chest. I think there is nothing worse in this world than children's pain of not being loved properly. We carry it with us everywhere we go in this world, we believe there must be something essentially wrong with us. And that guilt you mention is so powerful some days. That guilt which is paradoxical in our minds, to revolt against the people who were supposed to love you best because they hurt you so much.

Wonderful, vulnerable piece with a wonderful storyline too: despite everything, thank God for good people around, people with whom we're often not related by blood. ❤️

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Thank you 🧡🧡🧡 This is exactly the reason why I eventually published the piece. I know I am not alone, we are not alone, but what is written about adult children going no contact with their parents is often a very negative view on the decision. How we feel about it is often not even considered. The guilt, I agree, is by far one of the worst feelings. Thank you for writing this comment, it made my day.

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You're welcome. Also, saying/writing things and letting them see the light of day makes them less heavy sometimes. ❤️

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Beautiful! I love how it’s both raw and honest and from the heart and also how much detail and thought you clearly put into it to turn it into what it is. 🧡

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Thank you so much! I am still scared that this piece is online, but responses like yours make it all worth it. Thank you!

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